Why All The Commotion?

It seems no matter what forum I am on a debate about breastfeeding vs. formula feeding erupts. And when I say erupt, I am not joking. It rarely is a civil discussion. From what Iā?Tve noticed, it usually turns into one side questioning how the other could make that choice and the other side getting defensive about their choice. And what have we gained from all of it? Sure debate is healthy, when it is a healthy debate. Why do we tear each other down for our different choices? Breast is best! But is it always best? In every single circumstance? When a mother is in pain, getting no sleep, frustrated beyond words, isnā?Tt able to produce enough milk, and only getting one-sided support? How is that healthy for anyone?

I am one who chose breastfeeding for my children. I am happy with my choice and it worked very well for me. But that is the key word, ME. Not everyone is me. I feel for my friends and acquaintances that were unable to breastfeed or chose not to, and not because I think they missed out on something special or that their child got the shaft. I feel for them because of all the grief they get about it from society and other women. How they are made to feel a lesser parent.

I donā?Tt like it any more when a mother gets a hard time for breastfeeding in public or choosing to nurse longer than the ā?oacceptable time periodā?, whatever that is. As women, we should support one another. Not tear each other down. We all need support. Being a mom is tough enough without our choices constantly being questioned. I realize it is impossible to never judge another. We all do it, and we all have our opinions about what is best. But maybe, just maybe, we could turn the energy it takes to condemn another mother into unconditional support. After all, isnā?Tt that really whatā?Ts best?